How to Deal with Toxic Parents – Islamic Perspective![]() Crédit d'image :
Publié le 24 octobre 2022, par Samir | 13 h 23 min
Temps de lecture : 3 minutes
The only relationship in which there is unconditional obedience is the relationship between you and your Lord. Every other relationship, be it husband-wife, mother-daughter, employee boss, etc., has exceptions. Parenthood is a beautiful relationship, and Allah SWT has given extreme importance to parents. But as mentioned above, every relationship has an exception. Like there are plenty of examples of healthy parenthood and parenting, our surroundings have many more stories about toxic parenting. We will discuss in this article how to deal with toxic parents and an Islamic perspective on this subject. How to Deal with Toxic Parents – Islamic PerspectiveToxicity among parents is a topic that is least discussed in Islamic books. Although parents hold significant importance in every world culture, we cannot deny some facts related to toxic parenting. Several children suffer from toxic parenting, which negatively impacts their mental and emotional health. As parents, we sometimes become too self-centered and ignore our children’s desires. We make decisions in favor of our children’s sentiments. Toxic parents practice unhealthy parenting decisions and leave a wrong impression on their kids. They might ruin a child’s life and stop trusting the parent-child affection. Toxicity among parents is hard to stop unless they admit their negative behaviors and try to eliminate them. Children always looking for love and affection might feel hurt and abused when dealing with such parents. But they cannot control this negativity; instead, they can learn to control their emotional reactions to toxicity. We have listed a few ways a child can deal with toxic parents and manage their reactions:
It might be easier said than done when you have extremely controlling parents, but Islam emphasizes respecting our parents at all costs. They have given birth and experienced struggles to raise us; hence, we are obliged to take care of them and obey them. Their negative behavior should not make you resentful towards them. Instead, show them kindness and empathize with them. Indeed, Allah SWT knows the best. Allah SWT says in the Holy Qur’an: « And We have enjoined (upon) man for his parents – carried him his mother (in) weakness upon weakness, and his weaning (is) in two years that Be grateful to your parents and Me; towards Me (is) the destination. » [Surah Luqman v:14] 2. Accompany them in seeking helpIt is okay to take matters to some seniors in the family if the toxicity goes beyond control. Seeking help from trustworthy people can make the situation more manageable, particularly if things become violent or abusive. Speak to an elderly family member everyone looks up to for family decisions. Talk to an unbiased person who can look into the matter without being judgmental. Communication makes situations easier to deal with, and you might come to a productive outcome. 3. Start a conversationToxic parents might be difficult to deal with. In such situations, you have to challenge them or start a conversation. Remember, they are your parents; you can not disrespect them. Put across your points and make them understand your perspective on a subject. A healthy conversation might help you get a positive outcome for something you want them to accept. Communication with an open and transparent mind helps deal with toxic parents who will not listen to your opinion otherwise. 4. Remember them in your prayers.Understanding your parents’ situation is also essential. Their negative behavior might be due to some unfair incidents in the past that led to a trace of bitterness in their personality. Even if they do not act gently with you, you must show empathy and pray for them as a child. Allah SWT teaches us a prayer for our parents in the Holy Qur’an: « My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small. » The more you pray for your parents, the more Allah SWT will console your heart. Trust in Allah SWT’s mercy, and He will remove your distress. It is tough to deal with toxicity, mainly if it comes from your parents. You might encounter traumatizing moments while dealing with negative patterns. But trust in Allah SWT and His mercy. Sometimes, He tests us with specific difficulties, but we must become stronger. Seek Allah SWT’s help and ask Him for patience and guidance to deal with toxic situations. May Allah help us all. |
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